My Husband’s Words Of Life To Our Children.
Words have power. There is no denying that. It’s a theme throughout all of scripture. Just to remind myself of the power of words, here are some of my favorite scriptures concerning words.
Proverbs 16:24 NASB
Pleasant words are a honeycomb, Sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
Hebrews 3:13 NASB – brackets mine
But encourage [often using words] one another day after day, as long as it is still called “Today,” so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.
Proverbs 18:21 NASB
Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.
These scriptures emphasize why I’m so blessed to have a Christ-focused husband who understands that death and life truly are in the power of the tongue. We can choose to speak life or death to our spouses, children, and community members. My husband chooses to intentionally speak words of life to our two baby girls every night. He always lays the girls down while I care for our baby boy, and nighttime has become their special daddy/daughters time. After doing the mundane things like changing clothes and brushing teeth, Josh uses the time to make an eternal investment. He reads them a bible story, prays with them, and then speaks life-giving words over each girl individually as he tucks them into bed. I don’t know if he set out to create a script or if the words were just an overflow from his heart that has stuck (Editor’s Note: Overflow from the heart. I had an idea of all that I desired to include, but it shaped naturally into the words you see below over time), but this is what Josh speaks to the girls as he tucks them in.
(Name of Child) I love you. God knit you in mommy’s womb exactly as He intended. He made you in His image, beautiful inside and out. Daddy loves who you are and is proud of who you are because you are unique and special. Daddy is so thankful you are a part of this family because you are amazing. (Kiss)
Those words truly are a honeycomb, “sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” He begins by calling them by name and using the three profoundly simple words “I love you.” I pray that as their earthly daddy calls them by name and tells them of his love they will realize that their Heavenly Father does the same. Isaiah 43:1 records these words that the Heavenly Father speaks to redeemed Israel:
“But now, thus says the Lord, your Creator, O Jacob,
And He who formed you, O Israel,
“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you;
I have called you by name; you are Mine!” (Isaiah 43:1 NASB)
Second, Josh affirms their worth and beauty as image bearers created by God in His image. As girls, I pray they always know that the Great Creator God never made a mistake when He made them. They are made perfectly in order to accomplish the work God has prepared for them before the beginning of time. Josh’s words echo Psalm 139:13-16:
“For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.
I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.
My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth;
Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written
The days that were ordained for me,
When as yet there was not one of them.” (Psalm 139:13-16 NASB)
Finally, Josh reiterates his love and desire for them, reminding them that they are gifts that he treasures. They are loved and appreciated not because of what they do, but because of who they are. They are priceless “amazing” blessings who are loved mightily. Again, I see Josh’s daddy-heart mirroring the heart of our Heavenly Father. Just as Josh loves and delights in our children, God delights over them. Zephaniah 3:17 reminds us of His unfailing love:
“The Lord your God is in your midst,
A victorious warrior.
He will exult over you with joy,
He will be quiet in His love,
He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.” (Zephaniah 3:17)
Each night, Josh uses his tongue for good by speaking encouraging words that build our children up. As he does this, our girls get a glimpse of their Heavenly Father’s unceasing and unconditional love towards them. I pray that God uses the foundation Josh is building throughout the rest of our children’s lives.